about growing up

we heard it a lot since we just a snoozing kid playing with unbuttoned shirt in play ground.
mom, dad, teacher, sister, brother, friend, mentor. every one said that, it is for your happiness.. but…

BUT…

but please do that, you have to do this, dont forget these things, and last thing work on those things first..

they ask us to do so many things for own happiness.

is it true that they want the best for us? wishing us for happiness? and ask to do blah and blah?

is it…? for their own happiness?

i knew what it feels and look or sound like living like a doll, everybody want the best for me for my own sake and i granted all their requirement and i did not happy.

in fact they dont know what can make me happy yet still bluffing around saying this is for my happy ending.

its their right and their duty to warn us good stuff and saying their opinion that THEY think its best for us. but it is not right to force us to do something for our own happiness!

hey we are grown up already..

they following question will be

“how do you think you are grown up already?”

you are still young, you dont know world, you are still teens, you are still early 20′s, you are not married yet and so on.

let me say : BLAH. stfu

you know, if you are saying those stuff, you are not grown up too. because what? no one is grown enough, in their whole entire life, human will still learn and growing up every single day when they live their live. no one is exactly the same, they evolutes each day, every event that occur, every experience that they learn make they a new people.

so when is people growing up? never. so how can i say that we grown up already? ok let me bring you to my point of view. lets say from the oldest, when you say people who grown up already is the married one. dont you think no one is prepared enough to get married? grown up already? no one ready of getting married. not enough money, not mentally prepared enough, still want to have fun or none experience! when they get married they are not grown up enough but they WILLING to grown up together and took the consequences.
so grown up after marriage? mm no.

now say, grown up at the end or middle of 20′s. i can say no. people at this age got a job, or property or cars or planning their new family or got one already. but can you say people at this age grown up already. NAH. could you find people at these age acting so ridiculous, so teens, egoistic and not think much? EVERY SINGLE mid-end 20′s around me do so. from family, acquitance , friends, and relatives. they THINK that they are grown up enough already and so they act childish! they think people can obey them because they think they are old already and order anyone younger to do this and that? so how childish they are now?

i am not teens anymore and i do think sometimes teens are the most childish state of human being. but if we look further, for me this is the stage when we should see and treat teens as a growing up human being. they WILL to find the truth by their own hands and they acknowledged their mistakes yet not too long staring at the mistakes they made them self instead stand up, bravely learn it and do something so they can get what they wanted. see how wise they are in that point of view now?

so how people that older think they know the best for someone younger just because they are older?

my lecturer always said, respect the older but not obey them. they are not as smart as you, as brave as you, as wise are you and just purely not as good as you. the differences of you and any older people than you is just age, they knew first but it doesnt mean that you cant do better or understand it best.

so in the end of this post, i want you to search within yourself, ask what the best for yourself and what can make you happy. no one in this world know it but you. happy searching!